Sunday, September 16, 2007

And so it began.

I am doing a little personal study on how to be a suitable helper to my husband. It started in the beginning with Adam and Eve.

Gen 2:18 States that "it is not good for man to be alone. I will make a suitable helper for him."

Before this, God gave Adam instructions and responsibilities (not to eat from a certain tree for example). So what did Adam need help with? Reading on in verse 22 we find out that the Lord made Eve from the rib he took out of the man. She is made from a missing piece of him. It makes sense that this helper that God created for Adam is to help "fill in the gaps" so to speak. But at this point, Adam is without sin, and yet he still needed a helper. Boy if I could remember that. Adam just needed a helper to help him accomplish and to be all that God had planned for him to be! To help raise him up.

Ok...In Gen. 3:6 "When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it. She also gave some to her husband who was with her and he ate it. "

CRAP! Now where did Eve fail? What could she have done differently?
Who was the original instruction given to? Why did she not defer this decision to Adam?
She also introduced something to Adam that was essentially poison. (Spiritual poison) She ignored God (not asking what He thought about it) and trusted in her own logic and wisdom ("she saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye and also desirable for gaining wisdom") and then took the lead with it and then offered it to Adam!

How many times do I offer bits and pieces of poison to my husband: A little piece of gossip, a critical opinion, etc?

How many times do I rush to give my opinion on an issue that is facing our family, w/o first consulting the Creator of our family? Or even worse, I rush and just make decisions on behalf of my family with out deferring to my husband. I BECOME EVE!

I become the leader, and/or the hindrance instead of the helper. Do we know if it would have turned out differently if Eve had done the "right" thing? We have no idea. But I can learn from her mistakes:

To sum up what she "should" have done (and what I should do)
1. Deferred the decision to Adam in the first place. It was to him that God gave the instructions!
2. Ask God immediately for wisdom and for aid in facing the serpent.
3. Given Godly (not earthly) wisdom to Adam as his helper.

Easy as pie!


mutating missionary said...

keep up the self-scrutiny - God is in the business of making marvelous marriages! Depend on HIM!

eleventh hour said...

I think you are trying too hard. Don't find the right mold to cram yourself into, beating yourself with the guilt stick to try to conform. It will only make you a lousy wife.

If you lean on God, each moment, learning the voice of the Spirit, and practice doing what he says, you will be participating in the freedom of his glory.

If Eve hadn't loused it up, we never would have had the awesome experience of being rescued and and resurrected. You don't know what a blessing is--no one does but God. Listen to Him and let him craft it.

Brandon and Jenny said...

Thank you for your encouragements. I am definitely not beating myself with any kind of stick. Just being vulnerable with the Holy Spirit to allow Him to teach me through His word. And boy you are right on the getting rescued part! Praise God that that is what what He is doing through this sanctification process. It's a little messy sometimes!

Chinzorig said...

I am encouraged by it! We need this kind of teachig and practice all over the World. Let us polish our basic relationships and be fruitful and multiply to fill the earth and subdue it! The God ordained roles in the marriage are given with the foundations of creation even before Nations and the Church was born. Be a light to families. Bless you!